If You Do THIS, You’re NOT Confident {You’re Just Arrogant}

I started my YouTube channel in 2008 because of confidence. I wanted to help other men feel better about themselves because when I was growing up, I didn’t have confidence or self-esteem. I didn’t feel really great about myself, but I developed it over the years. I thought that I could share insights through videos to help others feel better about themselves. When you feel confident, everything in your life gets better.

Fancy cars and a lot of money don’t make a man confident. Also, being super jacked, lean, or looking amazing doesn’t make a man self-confident. Some of the most amazing dudes have insecurities, but a genuinely confident man doesn’t try to hide them or put others down. There are a lot of scumbags out there, and confident men are diamonds in the rough.

I’m worried because there are a lot of these ultra-manly masculine dudes on social media who seem like huge assholes. And it makes me realize there’s a lot of disconnect. What the viewer perceives as confident is very different than cockiness. There’s a significant difference between being confident and arrogant. We need to identify the differences and go over some actionable steps that you can take to feel better about yourself.

How to identify a truly confident man

1. The confident man doesn’t feel the need to prove himself constantly. If he’s self-assured, he knows when he’s great at something or not. However, a guy who’s cocky or arrogant and always boasting or bragging or trying to prove themselves are overcompensating. When they’re overcompensating, they’re insecure, which is pretty easy to tell.
2. Confident men actively listen and are open to what you have to say. They want to know your opinion. Guys who are cocky and arrogant are dominating in the conversation and will talk down to you. They can be very self-centered and talk about themselves a lot.
3. A confident guy is humble. He’s aware of his strengths and won’t brag about them. Cocky and arrogant guys are boasting and trying to prove there’s something. There’s a vast difference between the two.
4. Actions speak louder than words, so you’ll see a confident guy earning respect from results instead of a cocky guy who talks a big game.
5. Confident people are inclusive and lift others. Cocky people are trying to talk people down because it makes them feel superior and better about themselves.
6. Confident people are open to constructive feedback and criticism, whereas an arrogant person dismisses what they don’t like that isn’t positive about them. They say you’re crazy or remove themselves from the situation. They can’t look at themselves in the mirror.
7. Self-awareness is an indicator of whether a person is truly confident or not. Confident men are self-aware and know who they are, but they also know who they are not.
8. Confident people admit mistakes and when they are wrong. They can say they are sorry. A cocky person, on the other hand, does not ever acknowledge that they are wrong. They will always try to prove that they’re right even when wrong. You can show them they’re wrong and made a mistake, and they won’t admit it. They’ll continue to defend their position, trying to preserve their ego.
9. Arrogant people always try to build up their egos, which are self-serving and self-centered. Confident men are not all about their egos.
10. Gratitude is synonymous with confidence. Confident men are grateful for what they have and how they have gotten where they are. They give credit where credit is due to the people who have supported them. Conversely, arrogant people are about entitlement, feeling like they deserve special treatment and needing constant recognition.

How to develop true confidence

• Start working out. It will change your life and perception of yourself. When you work out, you’re taking care of yourself, changing your body, and changing your mind.
• Dress well. When you take an active role and interest in looking fantastic, many things fall into place. Dressing well is about respect and letting the world know who you are and what you’re about. If you don’t respect yourself, you won’t receive respect.
• Set small measurable goals. You can string a few of these goals together and create successes. The more you succeed, the better off you will be, and the more confident you will grow.
• Fail. In the moment, failure will make you feel insecure and scared. You may feel like a loser. But if you don’t give up, you’ll try again and realize you will do better. Failure is one of those things that will grow confidence. Embrace failure, which is part of the growth process and will help change your thinking.
• Surround yourself with better people. You won’t feel good about yourself if you’re surrounded by losers or people who make you feel bad about yourself. You don’t want to surround yourself with people who aren’t going anywhere. You need to surround yourself with optimistic people who will increase your confidence. Unfortunately, we can’t choose our family; sometimes, members may be negative or toxic. Except that is them, and move on. You need to protect yourself and surround yourself with your own tribe.
• Learn to say no. It’s a powerful word; I didn’t learn how to use it until I was about 25. Learning to say no will help you stand up for yourself and take control of your life. It is difficult to start learning to say no, especially if you’re a people-pleaser, but you must please yourself.
• Help others. To level up your confidence and self-esteem, look for opportunities to help others.